A week from Hell

[Bendarr]

Things have not gone well for me. In fact very, very bad. I realise that a lot of you have no idea whom I am and for that I apologise on not posting or being around more often, but as you'll see I have pretty good reason. Also rather than making this a incrediably long post, I'm gonna do some serious cutting down on the details until a later time.<br><br>Ok here is roughly what has been going on over the last several months.<br><br><br>About 2 years ago I fell in love with a woman from california. She was 43 at the time (as am I). Lynne however lived with a highly over protective set of parents who didn't approve of me and didn't want to even get to know me. We mutually plotted her escape from her parents place so that she could be with me.<br>In June (2005) My Fiance (Lynne) managed to make an escape from her parents place and flew here to Madison Wisconsin.<br>2 weeks later she recieved a nasty e-mail from her father threating all kinds of things against me, my friends and anyone who was involved in her leaving. being raised to OBEY her parents, and the fact that she was at my friends place alone that evening, she panicked and flew back to California.<br>She and the family subsequently started undergoing counseling with a family therapist. The family agreed that they had been way too controling of her life and that she would be undergoing help with her self esteem difficulties and would try to develop a "backbone" when it came to dealing with her parents.<br><br>In September I got a partime job calling up librarians and telling them that it's ok to recieve a email for a free piece of software at no charge or obligation.<br><br>Also in September I developed a cataract in my right eye giving me blurred vison and blinding headaches when I look at a monitor for too long, or read too long.<br><br>In early october she informed me (via telephone) that she could expect to start undergoing kidney dialysis within 6 months to a year.<br><br>A week later I called her and her mother informs me that Lynne was in the Hospital and "the doctors don't even know what's wrong with her." and that I wasn't to call Lynne until Lynne could call me back.<br><br>3 weeks of increasing frantic e-mails from me to her result in no replys.<br><br>On Nov 6th a friend of Mine Calls up Lynne's father who informes her that Lynne Inouye (my fiance) had passed away due to kidney failure with complications on Oct 15th. The family kept the knowlege of this only to within Family members and didn't even bother telling Lynne's best friend whom we contacted later on that evening. Lynne's friend called lynne's parents and recieved the same story thus confirming it. I suffered a almost complete emotional breakdown.<br><br>On Nov 7th, (Monday) I recieved a notice from my landlords (new mnagement) that I was going to be evicted.<br><br>On Tuesday I talked with the new management. no mercy.<br><br>On Thursday, I was laid off from my Job.<br><br>In the space of 5 days, I found out my Fiance had died, I lost my apartment, and my job.<br><br>I am now sleeping on a friends couch. But hopefully I'll be entered in a Veterans Assistance Program that will help me with Job training, housing help, and medical help (Including having my cataract surgically fixed). The only problem is that the program takes place about 100 miles away from madison and I'll be away from my friends for anywhere from 2 - 6 months.<br><br>Now you know what's been going on in my life.

[Gizensha]

*hugs*<br><br>You have had a really crummy week. Here's hoping things start to get better for you.

[Burning Sheep Productions]

Thanks for sharing that with us.<br>I do hope you get better from this dip in your life.<br>*Hug.*

[Joe3210]

Sorry to hear all of that. *hugs*

[Holyman83]

I'm sorry. I know this must be really hard on you right now.<br>*hugs*

[norsenerd]

*hugs Bendar*<br><br>I'm sorry for these dificulties. It is a lot for one person to sustain. I wish you the streingth to see this trhough. People here care abotu you, myself included adn those that have posted with sypathy adn those that will. I am willing to do what I can for you, however limited that may be. I wish for your luck to turn around and I hope you see this all through.

[Tavis]

Ouch. *hugs*<br><br>Things are certainly hitting rock bottom for you... I am sorry for your loss. Still, life does go on, and as long as you can wake up breathing, you still have a chance. I don't know what the heck is going on, but things just seem to keep going sour for nearly everyone I know. I do hope you manage to pull through and soon.<br><br>By the way, there is no need to apologize for a lack of attendance here. You have certainly been through some hard times, and there is no obligation for you or anyone to keep speaking to everyone here, much less in apology. Friendship should not falter with time or distance, and you have them here, Bendarr. Even though many of us may not be able to provide much more than verbal support, especially now, I do know that at a time of need anything is possible with these guys.<br><br>Be well, Bendarr. I hope it all turns out for the best.

[DesertFoxCat]

<!--emo&--><img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... s/cry2.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='cry2.gif' /><!--endemo--> <br><br>Glad you're back.

[Softpaw]

Damn <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... ns/sad.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad.gif' /><!--endemo--><br><br>[hugs lots and offers some cookies] That really sucks, I hope things work out with the VA.

[Dr. Doog]

<!--emo&:(--><img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... ns/sad.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad.gif' /><!--endemo--> wow.<br><br>Even though you've hardly posted on the boards, we all care about you. I hope things get better over time.

[Ozymandias]

Bloody nora. I feel for you mate. I hope that all goes well with the cateract and that your future brightens considerably. <br><br>Until then, you know everyone here is here for you in whatever way you need. Don't worry about not coming on. We won't forget you <!--emo&:)--><img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... /smile.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='smile.gif' /><!--endemo--> *hugs*

[Zaaphod]

Ouch, rough week. <!--emo&:(--><img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... ns/sad.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='sad.gif' /><!--endemo--><br><br>Here's hoping things will get better.

[The J.A.M.]

And I thought I had it rough. My condolences, and I hope things start getting better.

[GhostWay]

Ouch. Hope things improve soon.

[Supersmoke]

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