Internet Relationships

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Postby LotharBot » Fri Oct 24, 2003 6:44 pm

Of course, being easier to "fake" who you are only goes so far -- when you've talked to someone for months or years, you know who they are, no matter how good of a faker they are. It becomes clear they're fake -- especially if you're in a dating-type relationship. (Of course, there are some people who are really really good fakers -- we've all heard the news stories of the guy who had 2 wives for over 10 years, for example -- but these people are REALLY rare.)<br><br>I've met perhaps 80 or 90 of my online friends, and spent considerable time with about a dozen of them. I knew which ones were fake long before I met them in person. The vast majority, though, were really who they said they were.

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Postby Caigan » Fri Oct 24, 2003 8:01 pm

Agreed. unfortunately it was one such rarity my mate had a relationship with. <br><br>Depending on which circles you travel through, they can be more prevailant. In the circles I run through, I've had to help two friends out of such situations within the last month. <br><br>Not everyone can spot a faker, as sometimes love acts like a race horses blinders.
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Postby Tavis » Sat Oct 25, 2003 2:28 am

Internet relationships.. I could probably write a small book about that. *nod nod* Anyhow, since it would take me a while to post everything I would have to say on the subject at the moment, let me just say that I had a relationship broken off because my friend's parents didn't trust anyone she met online. It's nothing new, and it is only a matter of concern for your sake and for the sake of safety that your mother would be so protective. Relationships are as much about trust as love, and also about mutual respect and understanding. The trust is being able to open up about yourself, but not too much to make yourself vulnerable. Trust needs to come from both sides, though, and eventually, parents need to be in the loop. Love, well, that's a given. I mean, youhave to know that the person on the other side is as sincere as you are, and that it can withstand a few obstacles. Respect and understanding are for those times when something does happen to get in the way, that it does not ruin what is already there.<br><br>Of course, I have grown content to have more casual relationships with people, where rather than looking for anyone special and planning to meet and stuff, to rather be able to respect the distance as friends rather than fight it and ruin a good friendship with hopelessness.

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Postby Zel-kun » Tue Oct 28, 2003 7:43 am

Well put.<br><br>There is so much trust involved in an internet relationship. It is my belief that those who speak on the internet regularly have a better understanding than a friend which they talk to in person, regularly. As was mentioned before, the internet is anonymity, and consequentially, those fears and concerns that usually hold us back in the real world are gone.<br>A friend of mine, who moved out here from L.A. one year prior (which is when I met him) recently married a girl who was an internet relationship. And frankly, it has been the first happy and healthy relationship I've seen out of all my friends and their gfs/bfs/wives.<br><br>And, for a bit of zen.<br><br>The more distance that is put between up, the closer we are brought together.

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Postby Seven » Tue Oct 28, 2003 8:38 am

My 2 cents: I met my wife on the net, in an IRC chatroom <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... s/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif' /><!--endemo--><br><br>Right now we've been married for 4 years (our anniversary is in 2 days!) and not showing any signs of slowing down <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... s/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif' /><!--endemo--><br><br>We were actually in different countries when we started talking. 6 months later I ended up moving from the canadian west coast to the american east coast with my cat and what would fit in 3 boxes. We got married about a year later. And now we both live in canada - she was so touched with me dropping everything to move to another country for her, that when I got an excellent job opportunity back in canada, she was the one who suggested that she could move to another country for me <!--emo&;)--><img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... s/wink.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='wink.gif' /><!--endemo--><br><br>I definitely say that whether internet relationships (or any kind of long distance rel.) work or not does depend on the people involved.<br><br>While my own story is a good one, I've also seen my share of ones that don't work. I don't see them much differently than face-to-face relationships. The ratio of good stories to bad stories seems to hold about the same.<br><br>

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Postby Msj » Tue Oct 28, 2003 2:29 pm

Wow a lot of people from here seem to have had thier fair shares it seems. Kudos to the married couples and their long lasting marriages <!--emo&:lol:--><img src='http://definecynical.mancubus.net/forum ... /laugh.gif' border='0' style='vertical-align:middle' alt='laugh.gif' /><!--endemo-->
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